Boston Teens: Beating Was Rihanna’s Fault
By Wyatt Earp | March 13, 2009
Of course it was. Look at the way she is dressed! /snark
Nearly half of the 200 Boston teenagers interviewed for an informal poll said pop star Rihanna was responsible for the beating she allegedly took at the hands of her boyfriend, fellow music star Chris Brown, in February.
Of those questioned, ages 12 to 19, 71 percent said that arguing was a normal part of a relationship; 44 percent said fighting was a routine occurrence.
The results of the survey, conducted by the Boston Public Health Commission across the city and equally among boys and girls, are startling for local health workers who see a generation of youths who seem to have grown accustomed, even insensitive, to domestic violence. (H/T – Boston.com)
As despicable as the results of this survey seem, they are pretty much in tune with real life. Most domestic cases I have worked were “resolved” after the woman realized that the ass kicking she received was “her fault.”
Considering Rihanna is reportedly back with Chris Brown, she probably believes the exact same thing.
This country is doomed.
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March 13th, 2009 at 5:10 pm
I don’t know if the country is doomed because of the results of this particular poll.
What I do think is this:There is a double standard in this nation regarding abuse and violence towards women. Especially when the male involved is a celebrity.
I’m an African American woman. Quite frankly, when we are the victims of this type of abuse-we are often victimized again by opinions.
Both Chris and Rihanna need to seek serious counseling. There is no doubt about that in my mind. That message has been sent many times over. Hopefully they will get the help that they both need.
March 13th, 2009 at 5:22 pm
Msladydeborah – I agree wholeheartedly. Until domestic violence is taken much more seriously, attitudes like the ones seen in this poll will continue. And that is not good for anyone.
March 13th, 2009 at 5:49 pm
I would like to see the demographics of this poll. I’m not a big fan of Rap music, but from the stuff I’ve heard domestic violence is not only condoned, but celebrated.
If Rhianna doesn’t leave this guy and get some counseling, I’m afraid we will be reading about her murder in the near future.
After witnessing my wife go through a number of years of violence (I actually introduced her to her ex), I understand the cycle and the progression.
Based on that experience, we taught our daughters that there are no second chances. If a guy raises his hand or actually hits, come home, he won’t change. One of my daughters gave the bum a second chance, but when it only took a week for him to break the “It will never happen again” promise, she dumped him and came home.
I’m not saying he can’t be fixed through counseling, but she needs to stay away from him until he gets the help he needs. Particularly since the law and our society tend to give celebs a break when it comes to criminal behavior.
March 13th, 2009 at 7:53 pm
I’ve never been able to understand how anyone could allow someone (especially someone who supposedly “loves” them) to beat the shit out of them – and then go back for more.
And, I hate to be cold hearted, but once a man is violent with a woman and she goes back for more, my sympathy for the victim evaporates. The truth is, someone will only treat you as bad as you allow. The only true victims of couples who perpetuate this madness over and over are the children who have no choice in being stuck living in this kind of crap situation.
I just couldn’t imagine my husband ever putting his hands on me in an aggressive manner – much less him beating the holy crap out of me. Heavens, he’s 260 lbs of muscle and I’m 5′2 and scrawny – he’d kill me. And if he ever did hit me, as much as I completely love my husband and am IN LOVE with him – gosh, I could not ever imagine living with someone I was afraid of.
March 13th, 2009 at 7:53 pm
The last beating wasn’t her fault….but the next beating just might be.
March 13th, 2009 at 8:25 pm
I’ll write a post on my blog one day about why a woman does stay (for awhile) with the man who supposedly loves her, even though he beats the snot out of her regularly.
I had someone tell me once that if your man never hit you, he didn’t really love you & didn’t feel “passionate” about you. What a crock.
It’s amazing as what passes for normal these days with youngsters though. Amazing and scary.
March 13th, 2009 at 8:33 pm
If the Mr. ever hit me, the only thing he’d ever see of me would be my elbows and my ass. If they hit you once, they’ll do it again.
March 14th, 2009 at 6:31 am
In 40+ years of marriage I have never raised my hand to Mrs B and only once kicked her.
I was dreaming I was playing football (sorry, language problem, soccer) and I scored an amazing goal. Just the instant before I kicked the ball, I woke up, realised I was in bed but the reflex action was too strong and I kicked the Mrs! Frantic aplogies all round but she then revealed she was having a similar dream and expected me to kick her!!
At less fraught times she has told me that if I ever hit her, she would leave. Not that I’ve never had or are ever likely to have any intention of doing such!
Don’t forget that there are occasions of domestic violence the other way round. Less common, but probably under reported. What man is going to admit to his mates in the pub that he has been beaten up by his wife?
Deeply sad all round.
March 14th, 2009 at 6:32 am
Duh 3rd para – read “ever” for “never”
March 14th, 2009 at 7:42 am
If I got smacked by my husband, I wouldn’t just leave, I’d take his kids, career, and as much of his pride as possible. But I know ol’ Lazybones wouldn’t ever intentionally do anything to cause me harm of any kind. He did once elbow me in the face in an incident similar to the one Alan B described, though.
March 14th, 2009 at 8:25 am
Yeah; we are just about done as a society.
March 14th, 2009 at 10:57 pm
My 2 cents: this entire Radio Air Pollution (RAP) and hip-hop culture thrives on misogynistic habits.
Rihanna’s been taken away from her family and is essentially being raised by her handlers, who only care about her $ong$ and appearance$.
Chris Brown was raised around a family where violence towards women was the norm.
His handlers look the other way because his relationship with Rihanna mean$ more publicity for him.
Somewhere down the line, she’ll either break away from him or end up dead.
MTV will actually stop airing “reality shows” for about a week and play her videos ad nauseaum. The same with W-Lo-IQ 102.
His trial will rival OJs. Blacks will take sides. So will whites….”free speech” advocates will say its fine to sing about beating your girlfriend. Conservatives will decry the lack of family values in their lives (just like I did in the first paragraph).
Then it’ll all go away and the cycle will, sadly, start again with another ingenue.